Divorce is hard on children, but you can make it easier on them by following these rules:

1. DON’T put your children in the middle by using them as messengers between you and your spouse.

2. DON’T criticize or place blame on your former spouse in front of your children.

3. DON’T let your children act as caretakers. Let your children be children.

4. DON’T tell your children if your former spouse is behind on or not paying child support.

5. DON’T uproot your children, if practicable.

6. DO pay your child support.

7. DO assure your children that the divorce is not their fault.

8. DO get treatment if you have a drug or alcohol problem.

9. DO encourage your children to see your former spouse frequently.

10. DO remember that your children’s best interests are what is most important.

When discussing divorce with your children, DO:

1. Talk to the children with the other parent, if at all possible.

2. Explain to the kids that both parents have jointly decided to not live together anymore.

3. Tell the children that both parents love them.

4. Tell the children they do not have to choose between parents.

5. Explain that it will take time for everyone to adjust.

Contact Joseph Hollander & Craft, LLC’s divorce and child custody attorneys today (Wichita: 316-262-9393 / Topeka: 785-234-3272 / Lawrence: 785-856-0143).